Crystal's Notes 31 January

I've noticed something in my work with high-performing professionals: many of us are excellent at rationalising other people's bad behaviour.

We tell ourselves we're being "understanding" or "empathetic." We make excuses for why someone spoke to us that way, why they broke their commitment again, why they took credit for our work.

"They're under a lot of stress." "That's just how they are." "Maybe I'm being too sensitive."

For years, I did this too. I gave passes to behaviours I knew shouldn't be allowed. I stayed quiet when I should have spoken up. I convinced myself I was being mature, when really, I was just avoiding confrontation.

Until one day, I said: Enough.

I was tired of letting people get away with behaviours that hurt me or others. Tired of being the "reasonable one" who absorbed everyone else's dysfunction.

But here's what I learned: knowing something needs to change isn't the same as having the capacity to change it.

I needed more than awareness. I needed the confidence, the real embodied inner strength, to set a boundary without over-explaining. To say no without guilt. To hold my ground when someone pushed back.

That kind of confidence only comes from deep inner work. A genuine understanding of where your patterns come from, building emotional regulation, and developing the self-trust to act on what you know is true.

This is exactly why I created the Deep Human Confidence Masterclass.

The most confident people I know are the ones who can stay anchored in themselves, even when the room is uncomfortable. They don't need to convince anyone. They simply know who they are, and that knowing is felt.

That's a skill. And one that changes every aspect of your life.

You can find all the details for Deep Human Confidence here.

Much love,
Crystal